The battle wages on regarding whether or not a cake maker can be forced to make a wedding cake depicting a gay couple. In this latest round, the cake maker won the right to deny service to a gay couple.
History seems to have forgotten the rapidly growing popularity of civil unions before gay marriages became legal. The irony of groups of people who did not want to be scorned or denied their right to be legally recognized as a couple because of their sexual preferences also demanding to be just like those they viewed as close minded and prejudiced seemed to be lost on everyone, yes, everyone, but me.
Paraphrasing..."I can't stand your rigid, judgemental, prejudiced ways....but I want to be just like you when it comes to marriage". It's such an oxymoronic position it defies logic.
Another oxymoronic position is the steadfast belief that a gay marriage is identical to a heterosexual marriage in which the couple can conceive children. The two are not the same. The reality of a fertile heterosexual marriage is the couple has to remain vigilant at all times regarding when and how many kids they plan on bringing into the world. Fertile heterosexual marriages actually have to alter their sexual practices routines. Do gay marriages ever alter their sexual practices out of fear of having an unplanned pregnancy?
So there is a distinct wedge between what a fertile heterosexual and a gay marriage is. The gay movement's demand that they be allowed to have the exact same term applied to their unions was from my point of view, embarrassing and sad.
What might have happened if the gay movement had stayed the course and popularized civil unions while also fighting for the right to have all the same government related benefits that a conventional marriage is given?
I think a civil union alliance comprised of non-fertile heterosexual couples, couples with different religious beliefs, civil rights advocates, progressive minded heterosexual couples, gay couples, bi-sexual couples would have combined to create a civil union majority in which perhaps 60% to 70% of all unions would be civil unions and only 30% to 40% would prefer to have a conventional marriage.
Pioneers do not follow a path already taken, they make their own, and when it came to forging a path for civil unions to become the dominant form of recognized coupling, the ball was dropped.
On a personal level, were I to ever marry someone of a different religion, or if we could not conceive a child, I would be quite fine with having a civil union instead, as long as all the same government rights were granted.
As it stands now, the perpetual battle between gay marriages and cake makers wages on, creating perpetual hostility and anger that is all so unnecessary.
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